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Get Lubed for Slick and Sexy Solo Play – How to Choose the Best Lubricant for Masturbation

You might think that you don’t need lube for masturbation. You’ve never needed it before and you’ve got along just fine. Okay, you understand that there are times when a little extra lubrication might help things along in certain sexual scenarios but you’ve been masturbating since your teens without the need for any extras and you’re pretty sure you’ve got the knack of it by now!

Believe me; if you’ve never used a decent lubricant for masturbation then you’re missing out. Big time.

Read on to learn more about lubricants and figure out what would be the best lube for masturbation for you.​

What is Lube For and When Should You Use it?

Of course, you might have used a little spit on your hand from time to time, just to smooth things over. And that, essentially, is what lube does.

A lubricant is something which reduces friction. Like grease on your bicycle and a drop of oil on that stiff door hinge; a lubricant is something which enables moving parts to glide together more easily.

If you are using masturbation aids or indulging in anal play with toys then a good lubricant is essential. But even basic stroking will benefit from some well-chosen lubricant.

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Friction during masturbation is a delicate balance. Too little and you lose the sensation; too much and it can start getting painful. A good dollop of lubricant helps by easing the way to blow-your-mind orgasms and can even add a little extra sensation of its own.

With Fleshlight and other masturbators, you will need quite a lot of lubricant. ​Therefore, when buying lube, it is better to buy a bigger container.

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Personal Lubricant: The Basics

Personal lubes are available from all sex retailers but before you start shopping you need to figures out which type you want. The best personal lubricant is a personal choice and there are hundreds to choose from. It can all seem a little overwhelming if you don’t know what you are looking for.

The good news is that there are essentially three kinds of lube: oil based, water based and silicone based. Once you know which of the three you are looking for then you’ll be ready to start shopping.

Water Based Lube

Water based lubricants are the most commonly available and cheapest to buy. Because they are water based, they are easy to clean off skin, clothing and sheets. They are also suitable for use with condoms and sex toys where other lubricants might not be safe.

The only downside of using a water based lube is their tendency to be absorbed or evaporate from your skin and require regular re-application. Fiddling around with a bottle of lube might not be a total mood killer but it’s definitely not fun!

The primary ingredient of water based lubes is water. Many also contain glycerin (glycerin free versions are often

JO H2O water based personal lubricant

JO H2O Water Based Lube

preferred by women due to the sensitive chemical balance in the vagina but most men should be fine with either), and a thickening agent of some kind to give the lube a gel like, slippery consistency.

The best water based lubes rinse off easily in water, so are perfect for general use but totally unsuitably to masturbation in the shower. Water based lubes are also not the best choice for anal masturbation, unless you choose a thick anal specific lube, because of their tendency to dry out.

Water based lubes are the best choice for Fleshlights and other sex toys as you don't risk ruining you expensive toy.

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Silicone Based Lube

Silicone based lubricant is more expensive to buy, but it tends to feel silkier and last longer that water based lube. This makes it a great choice for solo play and you do not need to worry about running dry mid-session.

Silicone lube is also the best choice for any sexual activity that involves water because it stays where you put it. If you like to play in the shower then it’s your best choice.

But if you are planning to spice up your masturbation session with a sex toy then you might want to think twice. Silicone lubes are not recommended for use with most silicone toys as they can break down the surface and damage the toy.

Gun Oil silicone  based personal lubricant

Gun Oil Silicone Based Lube

Some good quality lubes, with high quality toys, are ok, but sex toys are not cheap so make sure you check the label to see if they are compatible before use.

Silicone lubes are often better for use with sensitive skin than water based lubes as they are usually hypoallergenic and are unlikely to cause a negative reaction.

Oil Based Lube

Oil based lubes are often avoided for sex because they are unsuitable for use with latex condoms and can cause problems for the sensitive skin of the vagina.

Of course, none of these concerns apply to male masturbation and many men start their sexual exploration with oil based products such as baby oil or Vaseline jelly; both products that are found in most bathrooms.

Oil based lubes can be made from a variety of different oils and other ingredients and many natural and organic lubes are made with some sort of oil. They do last longer than water based lubricants, but they are also messy, difficult to wash off and can stain clothes and sheets.

Stroke 29 oil based personal lubricant

Stroke 29 Oil Based Lube

Hybrid Lube

Hybrid lubes are a combination of water based lubes with a small amount of silicone. The added silicone can drastically change the feel and consistency of the lube.

Hybrid lubricants have similar silky and slick feel as silicone lubes. They also are longer lasting than water based lubes.

Cleaning hybrid lubes from your skin or sheets is also easy as the lube is mostly water soluble.

Most hybrid lubes can be used with silicone sex toys, but always test before using. Apply a small amount of the lube to a non-critical section of your toy and see how it reacts. If the lube feels sticky when rubbed on the toy, wash the toy immediately and don't use that lube with your silicone toys.

JO All-In-One hybrid personal lurbicant

Jo All-in-One Hybrid Lube

Lube Compatibility Chart

Different types of personal lubricants are not suitable for all kinds of play. Check the compatibility chart below for when not to use silicone or oil based lubricants.

Lube compatibility chart

Choosing the Best Lubricant for Masturbation

As you can see, all types of lube are suitable for different things. If you are planning to use silicone sex toys then water based lubes are the best choice; if you are not planning any extras then it really is just a matter of personal preference.

What I have learned is that seemingly similar lubes may disagree with my body causing itch and discomfort afterwards. If you have issues with any of the lubes, try another one and things may be better.

Natural Lubricants

Many lubricants contain an array of ingredients that can cause irritation of you have particularly sensitive skin. Nobody needs a fun masturbation session to turn into a race for a cool shower to wash away the lube so, if you find that other lubes do not agree with you then it’s time to look at some all natural lubricant alternatives.

Yes Organic Water Based Lube is made with aloe vera and other natural ingredients. It is a general purpose lube that does the job with no problems. It is a little more expensive that some of the other options but the bottle is discreet and it’s worth a try if you are sensitive to other brands.

Sliquid Organics Natural Gel Water Based Lubricant is slightly thicker than many other lubricants. It is made of all natural ingredients that should not cause any skin irritation. It stays slippery during use and the bottle is discreet – it would not look out of place on anyone’s bedside table. Sliquid lube is a great choice for anyone with sensitive skin.

Yes - organic water based personal lubricant

Yes Organic

Sliquid organics natural gel - water based personal lubricant

Sliquid Organics Natural Gel

Warming Lubes

Warming lubricants add a little heat to your solo sessions and create an interesting sensation, especially when applied to sensitive areas. Try thinking outside the box and apply it to nipples or other erogenous zones to spice things up.

Be careful when choosing a lube with added sensation if you have sensitive skin – you might end up stinging rather than tingling if you have a reaction.

As with any new product, it’s worth testing a little on the inside of your elbow before slapping it all over your man jewels!

A good warming lubricant will add a pleasurable feeling of heat to your masturbation and leave you with a warm and comfortable afterglow.

Fleshlube Fire Water Based Warming Lube is designed for use with Fleshlights so is a great choice if you are planning to use your lube with a sex toy. This one has a warming sensation on first contact and is made to be safe for sensitive skin.

Fleshlight Fleshlube Fire - water based warming lubricant

Fleshlube Fire

Cooling Lubes

At the other end of the scale are cooling lubes that cause a little tingle when applied. Both warming and cooling lubes are worth a try if you want to spice things up and are open to new sensations.

Try JO H2O Cool Water Based Cooling Lube for a cooling, tingling experience.

Both warming and cooling lubes have a novelty value that makes them great fun when you are in the mood for something different. They sometimes take a few moments to start working so don’t add too much before giving them a chance to work.

JO H2O Cool - water based cooling personal  lubricant

JO H2O Cool

Numbing Lubricant

From extra sensation to reduced sensation - numbing lube is perfect for these men who would like to last a little longer. It can be used with a stamina training masturbation sleeve to slowly train you to last longer and delay premature ejaculation.

Try SHOTS Water Based Numbing Lube for prolonged play.

SHOTS numbing water based personal lubricant

SHOTS Numbing Lube

Best Lube for Anal Play

A good lubricant is absolutely essential for any sort of anal play. The skin of the anus is thin and sensitive and inserting anything into it without adequate lubricant can easily cause small tears and other damage.

Anal lubes tend to be thicker than other lubes, to ensure that they do not dry out but stay slick and wet during use. It is worth sticking to a specific anal lube, especially if you are inexperienced at using anal toys, as some of the novelty lubricants can dry out quickly.

Sliquid Sassy Glycerin-Free Anal Water Based Lubricant is  a good lube to buy if you are looking for an anal lube with all natural ingredients.

Pjur Back Door Relaxing Anal Glide Silicone Lubricant has excellent durability and slickness of silicone lubes enhanced with relaxing effect jojoba extract. Note that as Pjur is silicone based it is not suitable for silicone sex toys.

Coconut oil as an anal lube is a good choice as it is gentle on sensitive skin and the moisturizing nature of the lube makes the sensitive skin of the anus more elastic and less likely to develop small tears.

Sliquid Sassy Glycerin-Free Anal water-based lubricant

Sliquid Sassy Anal Lube

Pjur Back Dor Relaxing Anal Glide silicon personal lubricant

Pjur Back Door Glide

Cleaning your sex toys

A proper cleaning is essential to keep your sex toys clean, hygienic and in tip-top condition. Usually a rinse and light rubbing is all that's needed but every now and then you should give your toys a more through cleaning. Learn more about how to clean and dry your sex toys.

Coconut Oil as a Lubricant

Coconut oil is a popular and increasingly in-demand health product. It can make a great personal lubricant for masturbation and doubles up as a sensual massage oil. If water based lube isn’t lasting as long as you’d like it to and silicone lube does not appeal then coconut oil can be a great alternative.

Coconut oil has many of the benefits of other oil based lubes; it’s thick, long lasting and great for your skin. But it doesn’t drip and stain the bedsheets; your skin absorbs the oil so there is no messy cleanup to deal with afterward. It’s perfect for anal play because it is thick, long lasting and gets absorbed by the skin; making it more supple and flexible and less prone to damage. And, according to fans, it prevents your sex toys from retaining any unpleasant odors after use.

Food grade coconut oil is cheap to buy and easy to use but if you are still feeling unsure there are also coconut oil based personal lubes that you can try.

Before using coconut oil as a lubricant, I recommend you checking this article. Coconut oil is a pure natural product, but that doesn't mean that it wouldn't have any negative effects.

Boy Butter Original is a blend of coconut oil and organic silicone. Its consistency is similar to real butter and you rub on your penis or toys. Boy Butter is hypoallergenic and safe for all toys. Still remember that it not safe with latex condoms.

Boy Butter Original coconut oil based personal lubricant

Boy Butter Original

Household Products as Lube

There might be times when you have no lube handy and the need is pressing. Even your favorite sex shop can’t deliver in the next ten minutes so, just like your young teenage self, you’re going to have to improvise.

Baby oil is perhaps the most commonly used bathroom staple that can double up as a masturbation lube. It’s slick and slippery and does the job just fine. Olive oil is another great lube substitute that most homes will stock as a matter of course and coconut oil, as discussed above, is a great alternative. Pretty much any natural oil will do the job but be careful with it because the cleanup can get messy.

Natural Homemade Lube

Make Your Own Flaxseed Oil Lube

If your reason for going homemade is to keep it natural, flaxseed oil makes a good lube. You can actually make it yourself by boiling up a bag of flaxseeds in some filtered water and draining it well. The remaining oil makes a good all-purpose lube and will store in the fridge until you need it. You can even add a splash of peppermint oil for a tingle effect.

If you are planning to store your natural oil lube for some time then keep a close eye on it and sniff it before using. Rancid oil is not going to set the mood, no matter how silky it is.

Cornstarch Lube

Another cheap and cheerful lube that you can whip up in your own kitchen is cornstarch. Just add a little cornstarch to water and boil until it reaches a thick, slippery texture. Too much cornstarch can cause thick and gloopy lumps so keep an eye on it and it thickens. Remember to cool the mixture before using it!

Conclusion

Whatever specific uses you have in mind for your lube, you should now have a good idea of where to start and what type of lube will work for you. As with anything sexual, the lube you use will depend on your preferences and the only way to really discover what works best for you is to try a few and find out.

Lubes are inexpensive, easy to buy and easy to try so what’s the worst that could happen? If you are still not sure then just pick one and try it out. You’ll be glad you did!

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